How to Prevent Your Child From Joining A Gang

Everyone likes the spotlight - especially children. When children are babies and toddlers we give them enormous amounts of it. However, as children get older, they need different kinds of attention. That attention may be academic, peer, or romantic. While kids always need lots of parental attention they don't always get it. That's when kids turn to their peers to meet their emotional needs. Many times these needs are met by joining a clique of friends and in some instances a gang.

If you ask most kids when they're young if they want to join a gang when they get older, most will tell you no. However, people and circumstances change and children will change accordingly, if they feel the need. That's when a child may join a gang. Gangs today are more violent than ever. Many have initiation ceremonies where a prospective gang member gets a violent beat down by other gang members. Many children who join gangs feel this is worthwhile because in return they make new friends and get a family which will give them the attention they need.

You as a parent have to make sure that your child does not join a gang. Many children think that adults don't understand them or don't notice changes in their behavior. On the slightest change in behavior talk with your child about what's on their mind. If you believe that your child is not opening up to you call your child's school and find out how he or she is behaving in class. Many kids act much differenly at school with their peers than when they are at home. Calling the school should help resolve some of the disconnect you may feel when talking with a child who is not opening up.

Here are some ways you can help prevent your child from joining a gang. These suggestions should be used as soon as you suspect your child might be involved in negative behaviors.


1) Request that your child see his or her school guidance counselor.

2) When you notice that your child suddenly has new friends, invite them over for a meal or snack to get to learn more about them.

3) Ask your child's teachers about their academic performance.

4) If you are a single parent arrange to have a family meeting with all parents present.

5) Check your phone bill and compare it with past months' to see if a new calling pattern has emerged.

6) Start spending more time with your child.


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